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An Illustrated book of Bad Arguements

I just HAD to post this quickly, a great resource as a refresher OR for those unfamiliar with the study of logic. You must check it out! His HILARIOUS rendition of copyright in the first pages of his book is reason enough alone :D

How can we teach what we don’t understand? The best day is one filled with wonder as we learn new things together and teach EACH OTHER the joy of discovery and of being human, thanks be to God.

From the author, Ali Almossawi:

“This book is aimed at newcomers to the field of logical reasoning, particularly those who, to borrow a phrase from Pascal, are so made that they understand best through visuals.  I have selected a small set of common errors in reasoning and visualized them using memorable illustrations that are supplemented with lots of examples. The hope is that the reader will learn from these pages some of the most common pitfalls in arguments and be able to identify and avoid them in practice.”

BUY HIS BOOK! or you could just make a donation, the book is still viewable online and includes quite talented, beautiful artistry, i might add. He was amazing enough to offer it under CCL. Anyone that selfless deserves some appreciation. and Allah knows best, al hamdulilah.

Grettings, yall :D  i  was going to post about Eid celebrations and gifts but I would like to quickly ask this and leave some words of remembrance for myself. I don’t know about anyone else, but my blog helps me ponder issues and problems when I write but more importantly, remember lessons in education or parenting I learned! It’s a record i can refer back to, a benefit and reminder, especially when someone posts a comment.

Forgive the simplicity of this post, perhaps I will elaborate more later. Answer the question: what is your role as a mother? I did a similar post about this, what are your goals of educating your children and this question is not really different, rather it is more comprehensive. Educating, training, and teaching our children is definitely interlinked with our role as a mother.
When I came across this question not only did it make me think, but what created more contemplation and realization was someone else’s comment. When this question was asked, a sister responded:

As the mother of a girl I saw and see my responsibility to instill high values of womanhood and humanity within her. Make sure she grows up as physically and psychologically healthy as possible. Give her the best knowledge of life and the world I can. And try to get her as educated with marketable work force skills as possible. And as well try to earn a living that leaves her with some kind of inheritance.

Al hamdulilah. I thought to myself, those are all true and lofty aspirations for raising a daughter. The last statement struck me though, because i immediately thought, well, not just about working and supporting herself, but what about marriage? Not only is it part of our religion, it is a proven biological drive as well as human nature to seek out a significant other, a partner for this life. As Allah says in His book:

< And among His Signs is this, that He created for you wives from among yourselves, that you may find repose in them, and He has put between you affection and mercy. Verily, in that are indeed signs for a people who reflect.> 30:21

<They are Libas [ garments, i.e. body cover, or screen, or Sakan, (i.e. you enjoy the pleasure of living with her - as in Verse 7:189) Tafsir At-Tabari], for you and you are the same for them.> 2:187

 

This was my response:

“Reading all the sister said,  i’m in agreement, however, lastly, we must make sure she marries a man who fears Allah and can take care of her.

I feel my role as a mother is to protect her from her own whims, educate her in Islam, to know her Lord and worship him and yes, as M. said, raise her healthy and compassionate. Girls are a challenge! It’s a balancing act with their self esteem and image and correcting them. Oh! Protect them from the portrayal of women in the media AND the illusion of happily ever after (it’s not just about falling in love, marriage is hard work, but it IS a way into Jannah!)

Allah is the Provider, in this society it is important to have marketable skills but what gives us happiness is not a career or money it is personal, fulfilling relationships, fulfilling our role (as a husband, wife, mother, daughter or sister) and correct knowledge of our Creator and practice of our deen. ALSO, i realized not to far in the future she would be getting married and i didn’t want the poor brother coming to me asking what was wrong with her, lol  (Because for years i waited on her and it made her lazy and not respectful). So i started not just assigning chores but teaching life skills, how to take care of herself, her hygiene, her home, and help with her siblings. Al hamdulilah she loves to cook and bake, learning all things related to it, so THAT opens up the door for fractions and science ;) two subjects she wasn’t fond of before.

When i realized that i also realized the same with my son. I had to raise HIM to be a good husband and father in addition to knowing Allah and his responsibilities. So, he learns how to cook, clean his room and bathroom, take on more responsibility as he gets older, and not try to remove his sister’s scarf when they argue in public! lol. Loyalty and protection towards his family. In essence: teach my son how the prophet, salla lahu alahi wa salam was.

I feel good doing things for others, but it can create problems. We need to make sure we are not fulfilling cultural gender roles and ignoring the sunnah. The prophet, salla lahu alahi wa salam, did not depend on his wives constantly to bring him food or cook. He cooked, mended his own clothes and was compassionate but firm.

 

This was a great question and could be a good thread! It helps to clarify your intentions and goals when asked,  al hamdulilah.

So what do you think your role is as a mother and after reading these two responses, what do YOU think in response to them and from your own experience?

In retrospect, the sister’s comment of raising her daughter to ‘high values of womanhood’ includes motherhood, marriage, raising children, taking care of your home. However, that is MY interpretation of her statement, what do other women, think is the value of womanhood and more importantly, what does our Lord say about it and what was the example of the Prophet’s wives?*

May Allah reward you for your thoughts and comments and guide us to raise healthy families, who are a benefit to society and have righteous children who will pray for us when we are gone.

salla lahu alahi wa salam wa radi Allahu anhumma

Ramadan activities

I wanted to post all the activities and crafts I WANTED to do this blessed month, but I was sick in the beginning and life is so busy sometimes, subhanAllah.

Since I prefer to teach History sequentially, from ancient to current,  I haven’t taught my kids the Seerah of Prophet Muhammad, salla lahu alahi wa salam, per se. Learning is all the time, so I insert a hadeeth into a discusion or in answer to a question. 

So far the only serious study related to the Seerah we have done was with the book, Islamic Tahdhib and Akhlaq: Theory and Practice , by Aisha B. Lemu. We were working through the lessons on character and manners before Ramadan.

I ordered it from Amazon, but you can also get it from islamicbookstore.com. It’s a book I saw used at a Sunday school at a masjid i visited many years ago in Evansville, Indiana. The book is one of the most comprehensive, yet easliy understandable on character and manners that I have seen. It is written at about middle school level, but good for adults, too. Please, if anyone has any recommendations, leave me a comment!

My children were learning World History along with Geography, inventions, events, Prophets and Peoples, roughly in order but for Ramadan I wanted to focus on the biography (Seerah) of Rasulullah, salla lahu alahi wa salam, as well as understanding the importance of Ramadan.

So I used a few sites for them to read from, mainly I read to them or Dd(13) reads to Ds(8). I also own a few books on seerah but many Islamic books can be downloaded free online at kalamullah.com, just enter a specific book or subject in the search box.

Here are a few children’s seerah websites we’ve used:

http://www.prosyst3ms.co.uk/8965/index.html (For younger kids with booklets to download, printout, and worksheets)

http://www.seerahforkids.info/seerah/ (For good readers or older kids-has backround music, if you want to mute)

http://www.musalla.org/Seerah_3.html (For good readers, with backround information on Prophet Ibrahim, alahi salam, and the Hajj)

http://www.kalamullah.com/sealed-nectar.html The Sealed Nectar, Seerah of the Prophet. In depth, can also be used by the parent as a guide.

This link is nice as a reference, simple timeline of dates and events in Rasulullah’s time: http://www.islamicemirate.com/resources/timeline-of-the-prophets-saw-life.html

 

When teaching History, I sometimes used Ibn Kathir’s The Prophets, but I am a huge fan of the amazing work compiled by Dr. Shauqi Abu Khalil, published by Darussalam, titled Atlas of the Quran, Places, Nations, Landmarks.
I was even more pleased to learn that Darussalam also published Atlas of the Prophet’s Biography, also by the same author and can be read online or downloaded through google books :

http://books.google.ae/books?id=mZmBkoDa9fcC&printsec=frontcover&dq=Atlas+of+the+Prophet%27s+biography&hl=en&ei=wyXaTqHXBs7nrAenxOHODQ&sa=X&oi=book_result&ct=book-thumbnail&redir_esc=y#v=onepage&q=Atlas%20of%20the%20Prophet’s%20biography&f=false

This book can be used also as an outline for Seerah studies or to read stories of Rasulullah, salla lahu alahi wa salam, to kids.

One of my favorite sites, with an interactive timeline of the Prophet Muhammad, salla lahu alahi wa salam: http://prophetictimeline.com/home/index2.php

Another helpful link : http://ummmaimoonahrecords.blogspot.com/ Great sister’s blog with MANY resources, links and activities for Ramadan, maa shaa Allah.

I wanted to upload our crafts, which I will inshAllah, although i wanted to do that before the last ten days of Ramadan started! This is Dd’s third year of fasting, i think, and my son is trying to, so it’s been difficult to get them both awake and alert at the same time, including me! Most of the time, i have to be there to provide the enthusiasm or motivation, at least for Dd, crafts aren’t her thing but Ds is always raring to go, ready to try anything! lol

Tomorrow I hope to do a masjid/minaret diorama with the kids. I had a neat idea to make it different. I will upload pics, inshAllah.
Also, when i figure out how to upload docs, I will add a couple coloring books to this post, iA. Here is a simple one I have but you can get it here now: http://www.muslimhomeschool.net/lessonplans/colourin/ramadan%20colouring%20book.pdf

Finally, another important goal I had for Ramadan is for the children to learn all the necessary du’a like, breaking the fast or duas for forgiveness. We also read ayaat from Quran about fasting.

I hope something in this post was useful, al hamdulilah. Please forgive any mistakes from me, for Allah Alone is Perfect and free from error.

May Allah, subhan wa ta’ala accept your fast and forgive your sins, this glorious month that the final revelation to mankind was revealed.

I hope you and your family are in the best of Imaan and health.

 

 

I like this simple list and it’s in acronym form, easy to remember. It is written by Aisha Al-Hajjar, mother of eight home-schooled children and certified Bradley Method childbirth educator and labor doula.

>>>PARENTHOOD comes with a never-ending “to do” list.  In fact, I could probably keep this Parenting column running indefinitely, just discussing the obligations and duties that come with the job.

But this week I’d like to keep it light.  So I’ve used the word “PARENTHOOD” as an acronym for ten simple tips.

 


P

RAY for your children.

Remembering to pray for your children is probably the most powerful tip of all.  Allah is our sustainer and we should turn to HIM for all things.  Pray for their health, their happiness, their safety, their peace…I could go on indefinitely.  Possibly the most profound is to be thankful in prayer for the privilege of having them.

A

 

CCEPT them for who they are.

Your child is not a mini-you.  They have their own personality, experiences, thoughts, and desires.  You cannot live your own unfulfilled goals and dreams through them.  Value and accept them for who they are and remember, too, that they are growing up in a different era than you.

R

 

AISE them in a loving environment.

Within a loving home there is peace and tranquility.  Stable surroundings make for confident and successful people.  Show your child kindness and love; for a child who is raised with these in the home is less vulnerable to the evils of the street.

E

 

NCOURAGE them.

Each of us has special gifts of skill and talent.  Like us, our children also have their own interests and desires.  Support your child with love and encouragement to fine tune their gifts and follow their dreams.

N

 

OTICE their achievements.

Each day is full of achievements, big and small.  An important step to positive parenting is focusing on the good things your child does along the way.  Parents foster good behaviors by taking notice of them.  In this way, they reinforce what is desirable of the child and that which is undesirable naturally diminishes as they seek your praise.

T

 

EACH them.

Perhaps a parents biggest responsibility is to educate their children.  This includes providing a venue for their academic studies, be it formal school or lessons at home.  But don’t forget to also teach by example.  Some of the best lessons are those of love, mercy, and forgiveness.

H

 

EAR them speak.

Truly stop and listen when your child speaks.  Multitasking may be a great way to get things done, but it doesn’t apply to validating your children’s importance in your life.  When a child feels heard at home, he feels respected, important, and loved.  This can equally apply to your spouse!

O

 

PEN your arms to them.

A child should feel welcomed and loved.  Physical contact is an important aspect of intimate human relations.  Babies and young children are especially in need of physical affection, such as cuddling and hugs.  But don’t discount this need as the child grows.  The amount of physical closeness will naturally wane as they mature, but even a teenager benefits from a parent’s embrace.

O

 

FFER the world to them.

Don’t allow your personal experiences to limit your child.  Many great people have come out of homes of ignorance and poverty.  The future should be wide open for them and they should be offered the opportunity to explore their world and allowed to reach for the sky.

D

 

ISCIPLINE for the future.

Discipline should be aimed at training for the future.  It is not about punishment or scolding.  The ultimate goal should be self-discipline, with which the child can be trusted to make the right decisions for himself.

Each of these tips could be the focus of an entire post.  In fact, some of them have been topics of previous articles in this Parenting column.  Remember that parenting is unique to each child.  There are no templates that can be universally applied to the task.  But these ten tips surely apply to all.


©2011 aisha_alhajjar@yahoo.com, All Rights Reserved 

http://saudilife.net/parenting/23979-ten-tips-of-parenthood

Greetings y’all. I just wanted to make a quick post about Supercharged Science. I am sure I mentioned it before somewhere but i was reminded today because i received an email about a free teleclass today, al hamdulilah.  The teacher is a mom and hold several degrees, with an interesting philosophy completely against “the norm” which, in my opinion, is a good thing! The experiment should be done FIRST and the learning will come through the experiment as well as spark the interest of the child to want to learn more in depth, which she then provides unit studies and sometimes even a whole semester of Science units for free in pdf form.

She gets kids excited about Science and they are able to learn on their own without their parents knowing much about Science and with little preparation. Here is one link: http://www.superchargedscience.com/escience-long1.htm

She also has a few videos posted on youtube, check her out. Kids will love her super paper airplane, enhanced with different folding and rubber band as well as her homemade rocket using JUST an old plastic film canister with lid and a couple of Alka-Seltzer. It is too neat and even gets the parents interested, even though i have always loved Science, I never went far because my Math skills were not high level enough.  So… DO NOT MISS OUT, don’t pass this up.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=endscreen&NR=1&v=8KI83jJuQCI  1.15 minute video TOO COOL easy rocket. Your kids will love this!

Also, she doesn’t sell your email or information to anyone, not only does she state that but as well I have been getting email from her for over a year and no problems and with Allah alone is the protection.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_6uzYmZ4hgs

Assalamou alaikom wa rahmatullah Peace and Mercy to the rightly guided, a quick link to post and inshAllah i will be back to update :) Thank you for your patience, we have been really busy since Dd age 12 now, decided to “quit school” She wanted to homeschool and All praise is due to Allah alone. She said they weren’t mean to her or anything (she is the only hijaabi at her school though there are many Muslim children there al hamdulilah) but that she didn’t like how they behaved and they were cruel to each other. I used to say to her I knew she wasn’t ready for middle school because the children become very cruel then and everything is about clothes, popularity and whether you have a boyfriend. There is also a lot of bullying and now, drugs. So I am glad she came to this decision. Georgia Cyber Academy, the school her brother is in is full and not taking students till next year so for now we will begin once again with all the books I own and loosely following the Well Trained Mind, inshAllah. I also ordered her k12 Math and Latin and we should get it on Tuesday. We are so excited and she said when UPS comes SHE will get the package and SHE will unpack it and store it in her room, NOT me! Getting mail and packages at our house is like Christmas. Lol, so to speak. AstagfurAllah :p

http://abukhalilah.multiply.com/journal/item/197

***UPDATE*** Sadly, multiply blogging has been closed, only the seller’s portion available for Asia remains. Multiply published the best blogs I have ever seen from sisters and brother with vastly beneficial knowledge and information I had not seen before. I will look in my files I usually save beneficial articles from online but until then, I am pretty sure this was the advice and lecture posted, so here is the updated link: http://salaf-us-saalih.com/2012/03/13/beware-of-your-childrens-friends-umar-quinn-audioenglish/

Changes

Downloadable teaching books Islamic Aqeedah, Science and History

I REALLY should have posted more often, i’m sorry. However, we don’t say “if” in Islam so i will just say I have been busy with the kids as learning is not just 8am -3pm but all the time.

 I have been crafting a lot lately. As well i’ve been enrolled since December in an online tajweed class though al Baseerah http://studyislaam.org/hifdh/   maa shaa Allah the teacher is good and class is comprehensive. May Allah increase me in ilm, ameen. I also started another blog not on wordpress but more simple, on blogger with more pictures. It includes all we do in nature, with animals and bugs in and out the house :) and our love of books. It’s a work in progress. I will be glad to update with a link to it later, inshAllah. I started it as a record for us but realized it would be great for my parents and family to see the children and keep up since we live so far away. and Allah is the best of Planners all praise is due to Him subhann wa ta’ala.

I am sure I have listed Harun Yahya’s site before it has MANY great videos on subjects such as History, Ideologies, almost every branch of Science, all from an Islamic perspective, as well as books, articles and a kids site but through a Muslim Photographers group on Flickr and someone on there posted a link. Harun Yahya does not just have great teaching tools, i myself love the quality of the PBS like videos attributing the miracle of the ant and bird to Allah, but as well very intellectual documentaries for adults.    http://harunyahya.net/V2/Lang/en/Pg/WorkDetail/Number/205

The actual site I got I had clicked on ‘English” from flickr but got a site all in what I presume to be Turkish however, a little navigation I chose English again. There are many books to choose from. This link inshAllah, is for the book title ‘Let’s learn our Islam” I would say its more for older kids as there is much reasoning, Science, some History as well as stories of the Prophets but it’s fine for adults to read to kids and probably a great dawah tool. One could also give the link or printed book to a public school or your child’s teacher. (Should homeschooling no longer be an option or perhaps to educate all your fellow Christian homeschoolers who, in the publications for teaching their kids encourage them to ‘pray’ for us :D  when many of them haven’t read the Quran only believing the media and what THEIR preachers say about Islam.

Overall, the book is a nice guide for teaching children about their Lord and the miracle of this earth, our bodies and mankind. What is better, is that the website allows choice available in MANY languages and the downloads as well. So, i knew about Haryn Yahya and his other sites and kids site but I never saw this one, i hope it will benefit :)

I am so grateful to Allah not just that I found this, but he granted me understanding but i have much further to go and we can never learn everything about this beautiful deen but one of the goals is perfection of Ibaadah, and for me to teach my children and uplift my own soul through Tarbiyyah. We’ve had ups and downs as a family, we all do, as well as we are told Imaan (faith) is like the phases of the moon.

 So, all praise is due to Allah He is truly merciful! With harship is ease. My children are growing and doing better, my daughter had gotten some attitude but that improved and my son, well he’s got a lot of energy and a bit of a temper. ( i don’t like labels I prefer to say traits) So that’s why I have said that I am grateful because, by the mercy of Allah, learning, changing my behavoir and applying the sunnah not just in my life but in the interactions with my children they have improved. I am sure making du’a didn’t hurt :) al hamduliah.

Changing my own attitude and thought process worked but also I saw some things about the Prophet’s salla lahu alahi wa salams interactions with children that were an inspiration and insight. One can easily study the seerah of the Prophet in books or online, however I had read half of Shadeed Muhammad’s book He came to Perfect Moral Character and it had several hadeeth I had never seen before about the sunnah with children and correcting people and some I had seen but the hadeeth were explained more so it made a real difference with my understanding and thinking.  http://rawdah.org/book-store-2/ *

The fact is, in any insightful quote or example of good I have found the same in the biography of Muhammad, salla lahu alahi wa salam and even better or more clear. I love the website and philisophy of www.raisingsmallsouls.com but in reality the video Animal School and their articles and classes are the sunnah. A lot of modern psychology and parenting turns out to be the sunnah. All good is in following the sunnah and this is in all aspects of life and of course in parenting, the upbringing and education of the children.

Finally,i made the resolution to keep daily notes so that what i find, learn and we experience can be kept track of so that at a bare minimum for me, it will help as a record and reference (because believe me, it’s beneficial because later I read something I forgot) and at the most can benefit someone, at least one :) inshaAllah. May I be consistant with this. May Allah make me successful in this life and the next, forgive me and grant me Jannah. May Allah guide all my brothers and sisters and anyone seeing truth.

P.S. In following the original scope of this blog, i want to post my corrections of the logic curricula by Douglas Wilson and James Nance, making it more Muslim friendly, if you know this book of beginning logic it’s filled with shirk and could use some names and ideas besides John and Michael and “Jesus either died on the cross or he did not” Well, actually now that i see that in writing thats not bad…as a test of an example of a statement. lol. Also, my plan is to also list the topics covered by grade of the Georgia curriculum using k12 and how I have moved the History around to be more sequential, though it’s not too out of order. I actually see many things they are doing now, copying the Classical method. We used k12 in Texas a few years ago.

 In general in relation to k12 I will list substitutions, skips, and what we suppliment from the library and by the favor of Allah, glory be to Him, allows us to see everyday. God willing. Soon i will comment of the positives and negatives of using k12 and compare it to The Well Trained Mind method and the newer teaching manuals and books by Susan Wise Bauer. I have a few of her newer books and reviewed Writing with Ease and can’t wait to order it!

* i am aware of some refutation however i read this a while back and was unable to finish and returned to it in the practice of my parenting. It was the HADEETH that inspired me that our brother, yes he still is, quoted.

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