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Ok so ima post a link after just blogging before that i don’t normally posts link, lol.


The content of this short article is something that i HAVE learned and mentioned on previous posts about the importance of being ‘in the moment’ with your children and even life in general. However, smh…this title called to me:


yeah, that’s me about 50% of the time. It used to be met like, 80% of the time.

As i have mentioned before, it is my daughter (Dd) who showed me the way and what was best for her. All praise Alone is to God.
I am still growing in this way and still learning may Allah increase me in knowledge and keep me on the straight path. I thank our Lord who showed me the error of my ways in teaching and parenting my kids.

I think people in general go to two extremes when raising their children: they either raise them the way they were raised or they raise them completely the opposite way. Unless there was perfection in their own upbringing, neither of these extremes is good. Moderation is the key and balance is always good.

I read many, many books on parenting and psychology, starting at the age of nineteen. I did not want to repeat the harms that were done to me. However, we tend to copy the speech and actions of our own parents as we age, i think. At least that’s the way it was with me. We also behave the same way because as an adult, we have the same stresses our parents did! I forgive my parents, though. Khalas, here is the article, enjoy. I would like to hear your thoughts on it.


verb (used with object), facilitated, facilitating.


to make easier or less difficult; help forward (an action, a process, etc.):

Careful planning facilitates any kind of work.


to assist the progress of (a person).

Facilitate: this is our duty as parents. I am not the first home-schooler to use this term nor to be the last. This has been the best way for my children to learn, with me assisting, helping or just being available if they have a question. It does not mean i do not ever ‘assign’ something, i do. However, i am more focused now in what interests them, and what they want, al hamdulilah.

Our task is to provide an education for the kind of kids we have…..Not the kind of kids we used to have, or want to have, or the kids that exist in our dreams.” ~ Mary Kay Utech

It isn’t about me. It was never about me. They don’t belong to me nor does anything i own belong to me. They are a ni’mah from Allah but also a test. They are borrowed, loaned to me and will return to their Lord, just as i will. May Allah guide them and give them the best in this life and the afterlife . May Allah give me righteous children who will pray for me after i pass!

I am so grateful to have found this way surely, our Lord is Most Merciful. Now i realize His Mercy extends to my children, of course. And we know God answers the supplications of the children and the oppressed.
~ Peace


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