It’s been too long and i am sorry for that. My only excuse is i have been living life subhanAllah and since the end of Ramadan life has just been happening to me but now i am determined to take it by the horns, so to speak lol.
I think this “downer” period for lack of sleep and i can’t think of another more suitable word, after the renewal and revival of Ramadan, is common. There are many articles, lectures and videos about it inshAllah I will add them soon i finally found this short list I saved in my computer that I have wanted to post for a while.
When I write or copy anything i usually cite the author, blog, website or other source but there is no record of where it came from, I’m sorry. If anyone knows where i got the list below from online please let me know so i can give proper credit. I do remember I found it online not from a book I own or I have read.
In general it is important to cite references not just to verify where you got your information from so it can be checked but it is of utmost importance to be careful who and where you take your information and knowledge from! The most beautiful of speech or valid argument appealing to your common sense may sound good but in fact, be wrong! Just because it sounds good does not mean it is correct and does not mean it will not influence you negatively leading you to other than the siraatul mustaqeem, the straight path.
In saying this, i know I have sites on here as links and resources but of course they are not all run by Muslims, some have advertisements perhaps irrelevant, innapropriate or having other issues. We don’t take our Aqeedah from such places but as parents and adults we can get many ideas and tips however everything should be weighed against and compared to the sunnah because the sunnah is superior and complete. It actually answers everything from sex ed to parenting to even psychology but the athaar and hadeeth are vast with limited books of ilm translated into English.
This short list is by Imam al Ghazaali who perhaps many have heard of but don’t know all of his biography. I present this here because of its fine advise but as well inspired by his lifelong learning but particularly his end. To learned scholars and in certain circles the truth of his Aqeedah and other issues was known however before he died, may Allah be pleased with him, he wrote more and rectified matters although it is a shame these final publications by him are not circulated as much as his earlier works.
Imam Al-Ghazaali drew up this list of the aims of an Islamic education.
1- To teach them the Qur’an, the biography of the Prophets and Messengers and Shari’ ah.
2- To teach them to obey their parents and respect their teachers and their elders.
3- To keep them away from bad company because behaviour and manners are transferred by imitation.
4- To praise and reward them publicly if they perform a good deed. However, if they commit an evil deed, they should be reprimanded in private, and not scolded publicly, especially, in front of their friends. They should also be used to modesty.
5- To get them used to endurance and patience.
6- To get them used to a rough life and not a life of ease and comfort.
7- To be prevented from insulting, swearing and idle talk.
8- To be warned against wrongdoing and sins, such as theft, disloyalty, obscene language and unlawful earnings.
9- To be allowed to practice some physical education, but only after completing Islamic duties and education.
10-To fully care for and educate children from birth, as their souls are still pure and fresh, because everything that is taught to a child is engraved in his mind, be it good or bad.
I ask Allah to grant us righteous offspring.
SubhannAllah what a reminder this has been for me and the reminder is for the believers.