Yesterday my son recently turned four, and he was sitting on the couch. I came to him, imploring him to change his shirt-knowing it would take a lot of convincing since he was wearing his Spiderman shirt. I swore to myself since I was a child I would not bring up my daughters to love pink and play with barbies and my sons to play with guns or love trucks and sports. Well thats the way they turned out! Allah is the controller of our affairs. NOt to say ALL children end up like mine but I digress. So I try to be upbeat as I come to him because we need to leave and I want him to change his pants and he didn’t want to and as we were both struggling to switch his pants as he was halfway laying/slouched on the couch, he stops, looks me right in the eye and says, “Are you SURE about this?” I just about died he sounded so grown up. I KNOW i have never said that around him……That reminds me of how important it is the way we speak to our children. I do believe in a child not being disrespecful of all adults and towards his/her parents and family- i loathe to use the word obediant, but I believe in it (mine DO get choices and have a say) BUT if we order our kids around instead of just being FIRM they will copy us. To illustrate this fact, the other day i responded to something my son asked my daughter and he goes, “MAMA. I was talking to Sakina not you.” I sucked my breath in a turned around to face him. Then I stopped. Whose fault was THAT one? I told him don’t ever say that to an adult (or me or parent i cant remember) that it is disrespecful and not appropriatte. And then i said to myself I NEED TO WATCH HOW I SPEAK TO THEM! This also reminds me of why children usually behave so well for grandparents which was talked about by the nanny of L. Ron Hubbard. No I am not a Scientologist at all. I will post about that later. But in parenting i agree with a lot of their ideas. In fact not only do they largely agree with psychology and emotional/physical health in children in raising them, a lot of their idea agree with Islam. More on that later. People treat their kids like dogs or like they are a different species. Common, everyday parenting applied to another adult would result in jailtime. I have to pray I will write more later inshaAllah.