A brief summary of 21 Points in Raising Children
by Umm ‘Abdillaah al-Waadi’iyyah, the daughter of the late Shaykh, al-’Allaamah Muqbil Ibn Haadee al-Waadi’ee of Yemen wrote a book entitled My Advice to Women (in Arabi).
http://images.muslimkids.multiply.com/attachment/0/SEo3FwoKCDUAAEA7Y4Q1/21PointsonRaisingChildren.pdf?nmid=99884725To see full, original article in pdf with references and translated into English.
After introducing some of the primary responsibilities of the husband and the wife in an Islaamic marriage, the noble sister explains twenty-one points with proofs and evidences from the Qur’aan and authentic sunnah on the topic of raising children:
1. To teach the child, ‘Where is Allaah?’
2. Instructing the child to eat with his/her right-hand.
3. Teaching the child not to blow on hot food/drink.
4. Instruct the child by age 1-1½ to mention ‘bismillah’ upon eating/drinking.
5. To teach the child the pillars of Islaam and eemaan.
6. To teach the child the rulings of wudhoo.
7. Eat with your right hand and eat which is near to you.
8. Get them accustomed with good and command them with salaat at 7yrs of age.
9. Arrange their beds separately when they are 10yrs of age.
10. Accustom them with fasting.
11. Teach your child the correct ‘aqeedah.
12. Advice your child with that with Luqmaan advised his child.
13. To seek permission to enter a house or a room.
14. Teach them the matters which are forbidden that they may abstain from them.
15. Explaining the meaning of an aayah or hadeeth that is being related of them.
16. Connect their hearts to Allaah.
17. Give concern to the memorisation of the Qur’aan.
18. Do not leave your children to mix with foolish children.
19. Do not leave your child outside in the evening.
20. Do not leave the child to play alone and do not make learning boring.
21. Make your child sit with those who are righteous.
Mashallah!!
Masha’Allah! I must purchase this book!
Al hamdulilah you can download a 16 page exerpt from the book at the link above, it goes into detail each point.
Last year i got to read half of Shadeed Muhammad’s book, He Came to Perfect Moral Character, the persona of Prophet Muhammad through my eyes and it had many examples of how the Prophet dealt beautifully and positively with children, i found it very psychological. Many recent findings in psychology in regards to parenting is actually in the Sunnah but we have known hundreds of years.
The book by brother Shadeed quoted hadeeth i hadn’t seen before and some I didn’t realize their implication. I found it very beneficial for parenting and teaching children, al hamdulilah.
Here is the table of contents:
1. Criticizing and Condemning will not bring about the Most Productive Outcome
2. Empowering Our Youth Through Sincere Admiration and Appreciation
3. Appeal to the Ambitions of Other People if You want to bring out the Best in Them.
4. Empathy and Concern for Other People
5. The Power of a Smile Has the Propensity to Change Lives
6. It’s OK to be Down to Earth
7. Setting Realistic Expectations of Other People
8. Don’t Over Exaggerate the Fault as the Consequences are Grave
9. Everyone Wants to Feel Important
I really want to buy this book and finish it as soon as i can. There are other beneficial books on parenting and teaching the child according to the Quran and Sunnah I have read and inshAllah i will add them to my book page soon.
Thanks for visiting my page,
Assalamou alaikom
subhannAllah sis, right after i posted this i was trying to find the list of blogs i joined through google friend connect of blogs i liked and the first one i started reading that i joined recently had the first five FULL chapters of the book from this post, the one you wanted to buy!
The links to the first five chapters of the book are on the right side of the screen but the bottom “part one” doesn’t work but the others do inshAllah. Enjoy! http://veiledbutnothiding.blogspot.com/